Have you ever heard the idea that those who love big often hurt big? There are moments in life when you love something, or someone, so much that you pour out all of your love. It’s the idea of when you love something so profoundly, your hurt and heartache will feel just as profound. If you have ever lost a loved one, you probably understand this feeling. You love someone so much that it is natural for heartache to come when the brokenness of the world changes things. It’s not that it’s wrong to love big, but there is wisdom in protecting and stewarding your heart as you love big (Proverbs 4:23). It’s pertinent to know where our love should stem from and who heals our hurting souls. It’s a restorative and healing kind of love that can bring us out of the pit of our weary souls.
God is love,
and whoever abides in love abides in God,
and God abides in him.
There is a part of us that likes to believe that our circumstance is too great for God to heal us from. If you are walking through a divorce, the loss of a loved one, or a broken relationship– it’s easy to believe that the pain is too deep, the wounds are too raw, and the hurt is too overwhelming for anything to make a difference in your hurt. Maybe it is difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel. No matter the heartache, God’s love extends to where it hurts. Nothing can keep you from experiencing God’s love for you.
For I am sure that neither death nor life,
nor angels nor rulers,
nor things present nor things to come,
nor powers, nor height nor depth,
nor anything else in all creation, will be able to
separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
His healing love that can never separate from you has the power to restore what you thought was beyond repair, offering peace, comfort, and hope when you feel you have none left.
There is a tendency to project our broken view of love from the world onto God’s love. Our circumstances can shape our perspective of God’s love, when in reality, it should be God’s love that shapes our perspective of whatever we are walking through. The enemy will come in and steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10) in order for you to believe that God’s love is anything but perfect and healing. The enemy will try and convince you that every type of love–even God’s love–will have the same broken ending. Take these thoughts and lies captive in your mind (2 Corinthians 10:5) and believe what is true (Proverbs 30:5). God’s love will not let you down. God’s love will not betray you. God’s love will not end. God’s love will not leave your heart in shambles. God’s love is steadfast and endures forever.
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good,
for his steadfast love endures forever.
When you understand that God’s love is greater and different from this world’s broken love, you can find peace and confidence in His healing and restorative love.
Run to Jesus with your hurt, pain, heartache, and brokenness. You don’t have to clean yourself up or wipe your tears to talk to Him and sit in His presence (Matthew 11:28). His love is consistent and without fail. Read God’s Word, soak it in, and let His Truth comfort your hurting soul. God offers hope for what is to come on the other side of your heartache. Trust that what He has in store for you moving forward is better and He will be with you through it all.
The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures.
He leads me beside still waters.
He restores my soul.
He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil, for you are with me;
your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
you anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life,
and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever.
– Psalm 23
When you love big, you may hurt big. But God is so much bigger than your hurt and pain. There is a gentleness, stillness, and security you experience when you allow God to work in and through you as you walk through your pain. Spend time with Him, abide in Him (John 15:4-6). God comforts you as you are sanctified and healed in your heartache, but don’t miss or forget His ultimate display of love for you:
For while we were still weak,
at the right time Christ died for the ungodly.
For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for
a good person one would dare even to die—
but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
God loved you so much that He sent His only Son to die so that you could experience God’s love and goodness for eternity. His love is greater than your heartache and pain from broken relationships in this world. For the one desiring healing from a hurting heart– center your heart, mind, and soul on God and His steadfast love.
